by
John U. Bacon
Orlando
All transplant
stories start with tragedy. What happens next is the
miracle. Never have so many creators and recipients
of those miracles been in one place at the same time
than were present Wednesday night in the Orlando Ray's
ballpark.
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All transplant stories start
with tragedy. What happens next is the miracle.
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Almost 10,000 of them -- including donor families,
living donors, transplant recipients and their families
-- arrived for the Transplant Games opening ceremony. From
Thursday through Saturday, 1708 athletes who have received
life-saving transplants will compete in 12 sports, and will
be cheered on by families who elected to donate their loved
ones' organs so that the athletes could live. This is the
only brand of Olympics where the most important athletic
event is the opening ceremony. Just by walking into the
stadium under their own power, the athletes declare victory
in their fiercest competition -- a genuine life-and-death
battle. The atmosphere was even more charged when the donor
families followed the athletes onto the field. The ovation
lasted over 20 minutes, with no let up in the cheering,
the whistling or the crying. Talk to some of the organ recipients,
and you understand why. There is the 33-year-old Virginia
woman who, when she met the 55-year-old man who received
her father's heart, pressed her ear against his chest to
hear her dad's heart beat again. Both were crying, as were
the hundred-plus hospital liaisons on hand to learn more
about transplants. And there is the story of the heart recipient
who, at his first transplant softball game in Tulsa, Oklahoma,
met a woman who had had a kidney transplant a few years
earlier. The thirty-something duo quickly discovered they
had more in common than just borrowed organs, and married
soon thereafter. When you hear these stories, sometimes
it's difficult to tell who benifitted more from this remarkble
gift. As Shakespeare said, "The giver is twice blessed"
-- not only by the gratitude of the recipient, but also
for the quiet joy such an act of generosity generates inside
them.
A donor mother's story
Janyce Iturra,
from Eugene, OR, remembers her son, Aaron, 15 at the time,
watching a TV program on organ donation. "He got teary-eyed
and said, 'Mom, I want to do it.'" Three years later, Aaron
had become a strapping, 6 foot 3, 230-pound high school
football player preparing to attend art school in New York
City. He was also preparing to testify against a mother-son
crime team, when two young men hired by the felonious mother
burst into their home early in the morning of October 3,
1994. Janyce at first thought the yelling was coming from
the television, until she heard a gunshot. Her son had been
shot in the head. The two boys received ten years in jail,
the mother a life term, but Aaron had received a death sentence.
Janyce was overwhelmed by the events, and the need to nurture
her other children at the moment of Aaron's passing in the
hospital ten hours later, but she had to make a tough call.
"My daughter Augustina said, 'Mom, you already know what
Aaron's decision is.'" Janyce signed the form and took her
family home, without giving it any more thought. But as
the months passed, she started to wonder about the people
who received Aaron's heart, pancreas, liver and two kidneys.
She decided to meet them, but it was no small task. Like
most states, Oregon's laws governing contact between organ
donors and recipients are more stringent than those for
adoption. When she started corresponding with the heart
recipient through official intermediaries, all identifying
information had to be whited out, as if they were prisoners.
But Iturra's case became a cause celebre in the Northwest,
and through the media's extensive coverage, the recipient
pieced it together. Two-and-a-half years after they initiated
their correspondence, Janyce Iturra met the recipient of
her son's heart -- on Valentine's day, 1997. Across the
table Aaron's mom saw a 52-year-old man named Tom Jacobson,
a pastor in Forest Grove, Oregon. He had waited three years
for a donor, and had only ten hours to live when his transplant
arrived. Jacobson's heart was in such bad shape that when
the doctors removed it, it fell apart in their hands. The
meeting was an emotional one, of course. So was Tom's second
marriage, on December 12, 1998, with Aaron's mom serving
as Jacobson's mother in the ceremony. Iturra has since met
the kidney recipients, and contacted the other two recipients,
too. "They all start their sentences the same way," she
says. "'I wouldn't be here if it wasn't for you and your
son." Two years ago in Columbus, Ohio, Iturra attended her
first Transplant Games. "I got angry for a couple days,"
she recalls, "because I knew I would not have been there
if my son was alive, and then I cried for three more days,
because transplanting absolutely works. I didn't learn until
then that it's okay to get angry, it's okay to cry, that
I wasn't alone. There were a lot of us in that stadium.
"I used to be a single parent with five kids. Now I've got
ten. It's what's held me together. That's the healing part
for me. "It's the best decision I've made in my life."
A recipient's story
Earl Taylor
approached the equation from the other side. A career Air
Force man who had led a very active lifestyle, Master Sargeant
Taylor, then 43, felt himself grow sluggish seven years
ago. Doctors in his hometown of San Antonio, Texas, soon
discovered why, and the news was not good. Sgt. Taylor,
an imposing 6-3 African-American man with a big laugh, suffered
from cardiomyopathy, or an enlarged heart. There is no cure,
and as the years passed, his energy ebbed while he faced
his inevitable demise. "Sometimes I'd open the storm doors
in the front and back of our house, just so I could watch
the cars go by," Taylor remembers. "I'd sit there crying
by myself. Then I realized, why should I be feeling sorry
for myself? I've got a beautiful wife of 24 years, and two
beautiful sons. Instead of crying about it, I decided to
enjoy the time I had left with my family." He gave his two
sons a heart-to-heart talk. "He told me to do everything
he'd taught me to do," his younger son Eric, now 21, recalls.
"Be responsible for your own actions, work hard, do something
positive with your life. And take care of your mother."
The irony is, shortly after Taylor had made his peace with
his situation, his situation changed. With about a month
left to live three years ago, Taylor was cruising down I-35
when he received a call from the hospital telling him to
"come on in." In a murder as cruel as Aaron Iturra's, a
25-year-old man was killed on February 4, 1997, when he
was caught in the cross-hairs of a drive-by shooting. The
man's parents decided immediately to donate their son's
organs, and the doctors' believed his heart could save Sgt.
Taylor's. "I was scared, nervous," Taylor recalls, "but
I decided just to put it in the hands of the Lord. And here
I am." Before the transplant, Taylor's wife Evelyn says,
"He couldn't do anything. Now he does everything. Everything!
He works out, he cooks, he bakes! He's Mr. Mom now. He came
right home from the hospital and started baking cookies."
When asked where the sudden impulse to bake chocolate chip
and oatmeal raisin cookies came from, the barrell-chested
Sargeant grins and says, "Hey man, I don't know. I just
make cookies every once in a while." "No no," Evelyn interjects.
"Every day. Every day!" Taylor's oldest son, Earl Jr., is
following his father's foot steps in the Air Force, while
his youngest son, Eric, enrolled at Southwest Texas State
in 1996. "Earl always wanted to see his son graduate from
college," Evelyn says, "and this spring he did! "I
might get sick, I could go at any time," Earl says. "I know
that. But my life is complete. I saw my son graduated from
college." But Taylor's not slowing down. At the Transplant
Games he will participate in the five kilometer race walk,
the softball toss and the shotput. Baking is not yet on
the docket of events, but it will be when he returns to
Texas. The Taylors have written to the donor's family through
intermediaries, and the family wrote back that they were
pleased their son's heart could help someone. Taylor's son
Eric, by the way, majored in criminal justice, and will
soon join the San Antonio Police Department to do the kind
of work designed to stop exactly the kind of cruelty that
claimed the life of his father's 25-year-old donor. What
does one write to such a family? Evelyn Taylor leans forward,
looks you in the eye and says, with a firm deliberateness,
"Thank you."
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